Wednesday, July 15, 2026

The Charms Of Tuscany

 


My first memories are from a trip to Tuscany with my parents to visit friends when I was two years old. I remember riding a red tricycle on a dirt road. I remember an adult in a tin foil mask. I remember laughing with Sasha while cramming grapes in our mouths. I remember running after birds across cobblestones-- the whoosh of their wheeling flight.

My mom recently shared with me the journal my parents kept from that trip as well as the letter she received from her mom while in Italy. They spoke of the stars and the moon, of layovers spent with family, of gathering mushrooms and late night dinners, of a back thrown out and traveling with a child who wouldn't always sleep in her own bed. My grandmother wrote with humor about the gunman who had asked her to empty the till at work, saying how surprised she was by his attractiveness. Her letter refers to everyone throughout as Mr. and Mrs.

I returned to Tuscany twice after that... the lapping waters of Venice, a veiled widow all in black, bicycles both slow and fast, the arcades at communist community center in Calci, squash blossom stuffed ravioli and spaghetti al mare, "Posso avere la chiave per la camera undici, per favore?" and the welcome tang of an Ethiopian meal.

Villa Coco captures the deep charm of this place in time-- its specificity is a transporting delight.


Friday, July 10, 2026

After A Cold Plunge





Our girl, Taffy Brodesser-Akner, has done it again.


Thursday, July 9, 2026

The Other Bennet Sister

 


It is a truth universally acknowledged that women in want of a Jane Austen adaptation are compelled to watch all those they find...




In this case (an adaptation of a riff on Pride and Prejudice), a win:



With delightful choices made throughout,




the series is better than the book in my opinion.




Heresy, I know.




Meanwhile, a riff on Emma just came out which looks promising (another reclamation of a maligned peripheral character in the original novels)...


Friday, July 3, 2026

Cape Verde vs Argentina

 


Cape Verde's population is 530,000 making it the smallest nation as well as the oldest starting line up to ever make it to the knock out rounds in the World Cup. Cape Verde recruited Lopes for the national team via a LinkedIn message which he initially dismissed as spam. Cape Verde's team captain and goalkeeper, Vozinha, is forty years old. Unfortunately, visa and financial challenges kept his mother from watching him play from the stands. 

And then (as postscript) there was Argentina's next game, against Egypt...



Wednesday, July 1, 2026

Colombia

 


"where the ocean drags its torn hem over the dark sands..." - Linda Pastan

We ended up with two weeks free in June and I couldn't resist searching the internet for "cheapest international flight". Evan was brave and took the leap. Ben was game for adventure. We booked tickets to Bogotá on Monday and left that Sunday. I broke my brain trip planning in the days between.



The natural beauty of the place was stunning... 

Rio Claro, Valle de las Cascadas, Rio Melcocho (where electricity arrived in 2012), Cabo Corrientes. Ben swung on lainas into swimming holes below oropendola nests. Flocks of toucans and troops of monkeys kept us company as we bathed off a beach of marble bedrock. We spotted sea turtles, leaping manta rays, and a sea serpent from a lancha cutting through warm Pacific waters. Rain brought relief from the heat at night. Lightning illuminated a basilisk and ocelot crossing patio tiles.



People were lovely... 

Johnny (the gay bartender at Dios), the kids whom Ben played hard with (Clemente, Maria, Ílan, and Selva), the grownups with their stories of the época de violencia as well as cultural and environmental conservation efforts (Eliana whose French husband is a safety kayaker, Clemente's grandfather, Néstor and Yoly, Sandra and Hernán, Alejandro and Marcella). We saw almost no foreigners on our travels, but plenty of Colombians were out and about on school break.



Bearing witness to history was unanticipated... 

Families traveling by mule to vote in Santa Inés for the next president (the drunken policeman that day as well as those stricken by the results). We watched World Cup games in an Irish pub and gathered with friends sipping viche around a laptop that trailed the kitchen radio by minutes.



Lessons learned...

No need to trek in the tropics again. Next time, we ride on top of a chiva. Yellow Fever vaccinations are free at the Bogotá airport. When in the bookstore, buy the book. We considered this hotel, but were glad we ended up at this one. No need for rainjackets, but a fan is clutch (as was a lack of checked bags). There are two airports in Medellín. 



Details I want to remember...

How everybody greeted "¡Buenos Días!" in unison with an echoed reply. The blind man with his stick, the woman lifting small weights, and the ultra cyclists all making their way along the side of the highway in a haze of exhaust from the semis hurtling by. The road signs urging drivers to be mindful of sloths, armadillos, squirrels, and tortoises. 


Saturday, June 6, 2026

Telemetry

 



Ben calls it inner wisdom. Those of faith call it god. Scientists refer to it as collective consciousness.

We are of it and return to it (in dreams, waking life, death).


Friday, June 5, 2026

Biggering



Feeling a lack of luck? 


Expand the surface area of your life so luck has a greater chance of finding you.


Feeling owned by an emotion? 


Expand your life (notice the bird outside the window, take up a new hobby, bike to school the long way) and the ratio changes.



Friday, May 15, 2026

I Believe This To Be True





  • Any creature that feels unsafe is potentially dangerous.

  • Behavior makes sense if you know the whole story. We often don't. Understandable is not the same as excusable. 

  • Everyone is doing the best they can with what they've got. A person's best is sometimes under-resourced (shitty).

  • The universe is an expanding system, one sacred whole that is ever transforming.

  • The key indicators of health in any ecosystem (be it a human family or a planet) are levels of biodiversity and interconnection.


Thursday, May 14, 2026

Choreography I Love

 




Tuesday, May 12, 2026

Loss

 


you don't realize it yet

that this is when

you began to lose him


each ship sailing on

as it was meant to sail

(needed to sail)

parting company


you thought your work was done

your gaze shifted

loss is a surprise

in the wake of your vigilance


with loss

will come grief and shame

their own ocean

to drown in or cross


to be a child

who has lost a child

is a risk for

eldest daughters


Sunday, May 10, 2026

Mother Lover

 


Woman as mother. It changes everything. It doesn't matter what you mother into being - a child, a song, yourself - woman as creator is the thing.


Monday, May 4, 2026

Some Slippery Words



Religion is mythology that has present day believers.

Terrorism is retaliatory aggression by the side with less power.

Immigrant is an ex-pat from the global south.

 

Sunday, April 19, 2026

Letter Writing




One of my dad's superpowers is writing cards to accompany gifts and one of my mom's is writing (period). Maybe I inherited some mixture of the two. I have always loved writing letters. 

Like the protagonist in The Correspondent, I have shamelessly written to whomever I have felt moved to write to in my life. Sometimes I have received a letter back in response. 

Most meaningful-to-me have been letters exchanged with a true pen pal in my thirties. I credit that practice with preparing the ground for my relationship with Evan. 

I think about Isabel Allende who famously wrote letters to her mother beginning when she was 44 years old. I imagine the magic of a correspondence like that with Ben.

I believe letter writing encourages a revelation of self and experience, a humanizing process which can't help but foster connection-- a slow burn in this mad, mad world.


Saturday, April 11, 2026

Pope Leo's Prayer For Peace

 



Everyone has a place in the mosaic of peace! The Rosary, like other ancient forms of prayer, has united us this evening in its steady rhythm built on repetition. Peace gains ground in the same way: word by word, deed by deed, just as a rock is hollowed out drop by drop or fabric woven stitch by stitch. These are the slow rhythms of life, a sign of God’s patience. We must not allow ourselves to be overwhelmed by the pace of a world that does not know what it is chasing. Rather, we must return to serving the rhythm of life, the harmony of creation, and healing its wounds. As Pope Francis taught us, “There is a need for peacemakers, men and women prepared to work boldly and creatively to initiate processes of healing and renewed encounter. There is an architecture of peace, to which different institutions of society contribute, each according to its own area of expertise. There is an art of peace that involves us all."



Friday, April 10, 2026

Artemis II



The concept of "competency porn" has been getting thrown around a lot recently-- the idea that seeing people act with skill, wisdom, and compassion at this particular moment in human history is hugely relieving and attractive.


I first heard the term in connection to the medical show, The Pitt, and now am hearing it in reference to the crew of the Artemis II.


I am so glad NASA sent these four to the moon...

"Trust us, you look amazing, you look beautiful. You also look like one thing. Homo Sapien is all of us, no matter where you're from or what you look like. We're all one people. And in all of this emptiness... you have this oasis, this beautiful place that we get to exist together."

-- Victor Glover

"The purpose of humanity is joy and lifting one another up, creating together versus destroying. All you have to do on any given day is just get up and do your best and try to find joy in your day and try to contribute in a meaningful and positive way. And that's it. And I think we, as humans, we put too much pressure on ourselves looking for perfection. If you look at what we're doing out here, it's far from perfection, but we are getting it done."

-- Jeremy Hansen

"What we really hoped in our soul is that we could, for just a moment, have the world pause and remember that this is a beautiful planet in a very special place in our universe, and we should all cherish what we have, what we have been gifted."

-- Reid Wiseman

"Ultimately, we will always choose Earth. We will always choose each other."

-- Christina Koch


"So you're telling me that the Moon's many craters are from billions of years of protecting Earth by pulling space rocks into her orbit? The moon who is depicted as a woman in countless cultures? You're saying her craters are evidence of care? Has someone informed the poets about this?"

-- Camille Hernandez 



 [color-coded map of the moon's mineral distribution]


Monday, April 6, 2026

SF



enchanted


and besotted


4eva


Wednesday, March 25, 2026

The Power And The Quiet



The Quiet arrived quickly and completely in the wake of The Power. No background hum of electricity, no sounds of engines at work. The chatter and sway of global systems collapsed into silence and stillness although their debris continued to listlessly orbit the planet. For some, The Quiet's localism felt imposed and impossible. Those who tried striking out for better during the initial fright found that fumes could only bring them as far as a place en route. During The Power, any question could be answered but few were asking the right questions. During The Quiet, everyone was asking the right questions but there were few answers. 


Wednesday, March 11, 2026

Some Great Words



बकवास

bakavaas (bullshit in Hindi)

სისულელე

sisulele (bullshit in Georgian)



Tuesday, February 17, 2026

Lunar New Year










Monday, February 9, 2026

Time Traveler

 

Ben built a time machine, complete with a sidecar for Dash:

They traveled to the Pleistocene and the Jurassic and brought back photos of what they saw...




Then, the next day, Ben used foam from a bubble bath to travel to the future and learned magic tricks.


Sunday, February 8, 2026

Super Bowl Halftime Show



Three things:

1. I find myself really drawn to artists who are centering love in their work right now and making it a communal experience. 

2. Artists who get into the weeds and tend to details with as much care and attention as they devote to the big picture deliver an integrity of experience which I find really moving.

3. I am so grateful when any of my prejudices give way to respect and admiration.



Thursday, February 5, 2026

Human Design

 

An addition to the cartography of self...



Mike and I are both 5/1s, married 6/2s, and have 6/2 children? Is this the deep magic of the universe revealed or like a mammogram where everybody has "dense breast tissue"?



Evan is a generator, I am a manifestor, and we have a manifesting generator child? Is that like how Evan is a golden rooster, I'm a fire snake, and we have a fire rooster child?



I love this stuff:

mysterious, insightful, curious, wonderful.


Wednesday, February 4, 2026

Beware

 

...the soul-sucking force of reasonableness.

-- The Power of Moments






Ben and Evan both think this is a terrible idea, but I am delighted by it.